A Dad's Perspective

So recently I began following this guy on Twitter who not only has his hands full with a toddler going through his terrible twos, but he and his wife also gave birth to boy/girl twins in January of this year.  (Yeah, I know, sucks to be him, right?)  Because the infant stage of my own little twinkies’ upbringing is pretty much a blur of a memory, I have been finding his sleep-deprived humor more than just a little funny.  His Twitter name is @havingtwinsnow and you can follow his hilarious blog by clicking on this picture:

I asked @havingtwinsnow if he would write a guest post for my blog, so he could shed some light on the insanity that’s an inevitable part of being thrown into the world of twin parenting.  I thought it would be a cool switch to see a male’s perspective on trying like hell to juggle everything.  And good God almighty, did he ever deliver.  Here’s what his brilliantly crazy brain came up with:


Pretty much the first thing you notice as a new parent of multiples is that you are now the center of attention wherever you are in public.  And if you weren’t aware of your awesome powers, wipe the sleep out of your eyes, the puke from your shoulder and the dried puke from your cheeks that was put there from the wet puke on your shoulder which you’ve learned to ignore unless you can feel it actually ooze down your arm. With great medical, food and diaper bills comes great fucking responsibility!

How? You ask. I have no clue. But here is at least one situation that while completely ridiculous, will state the ignorance of some upright humans while allowing for a few laughs from everyone else.

When you are out at a family function or birthday party, you can pretty much say anything and those family members/friends will believe everyfuckingthing you say. Just this past weekend I was sitting next to my wife, feeding a twin alongside her, or “tweeding” if you’re a kitchy prick. We were operating in our normal manner, communicating with grunts, clicks and whistles, and spastic head movements, when a mother of one since grown and moved out son (who has now apparently moved back in) asked us flatly:

“How do you do it?”

I glanced at my wife and gave her the sign that I would take this one, which is a handless gesture for oral sex involving my tongue striking the side of my cheek which to a fellow immature friend would possibly look like a penis! In my mouth!

So I answered as flatly as I could.

“Three things actually:

1.) A schedule that we dare not impinge upon or suffer its wrath upon our very souls.

2.) Coffee, which is the nectar of the gods and we are actually researching to discern if it is, in fact, Jesus’s semen.

And 3.) Anal sex. Lots and lots of ass fucking. It is really quite remarkable the amount of butt humping I’ve managed to squeeze in in just a few weeks.”

I then playfully tilted my head to the right, removed the bottle from my kid’s gullet and proceeded to burp her over my shoulder gently.

Blank stares from all around the room greeted my rapidly blinking eyes.

It appears that using the term “anal sex” is a show stopper. The entire room stopped what it was doing and looked my way. So rather than curl up into a ball, I got technical.

“See, the amount of strain on Julie’s vagina and uterus was so severe during her twin pregnancy that anal intercourse was really the only way to experience any semblance of sexual pleasure. To go even longer without coitus would probably generate so much marital strain that we would grow to hate each other, and right now, and particularly at 3:16 am every morning, we’re all we have. We need each other. And if that means I put it straight up her pooper, by golly, that’s what I’ll do.”

Still more silence.

As I went to open my mouth for more bullshit, my lovely wife elbowed me in the kidney. Monologue over.

The conversation around us gradually kicked back up, but it was odd, we were never made to feel as if we were disgusting or smelled of the shit of the bull that I was allowing to spew from my mouth. No, these people BOUGHT IT! I wasn’t being disgusting to them, no; they perceived what I was saying as me allowing a brief, truthful snapshot, although pornographic, into our interesting lives!

The pity you receive as a seemingly exhausted parent of multiples allows you to say the most disgusting things without the fear of reprisal, judgment or backlash!  You should really try it!

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10 Responses to A Dad's Perspective

  1. Amy says:

    OMG, I’m falling over laughing. I LOVE this! I’m going to have to come up w/ some Class A BS when I have my next one (8mos and counting). Surely a woman of my advanced age can get away w/ the same absurdity.

  2. Kristine says:

    Too fuggin funny!!!!!! Grabbing hubby so he can read this! AWESOME post!!!!

  3. Trisha says:

    OMG! Lesson I learned from this: DO NOT read this while at work! I can not stop laughing and my coworkers are starting to worry about me!

  4. Suz says:

    I am so sharing this with a co-worker who’s expecting twins in June/July! LOL Too bad he’s in a meeting. Maybe I should text him the url.

  5. joel says:

    man, i would totally bone that guy. completely boneable. him being married makes him that much more boneable. so very boneable.

  6. Jessica says:

    holly hell that is hilarious. I love this guy. i’m definitely going to have to start following his rants. He is so like my husband that it makes me laugh even more for the poor lady who had the gall to ask that insane question. How do you do it. simply live one day at a time and hope for the best. lol

  7. Bree stone says:

    OH MY GOD!!!!I will never read or share this with my hubby! He will believe it!! i have a fractured pelvis with baby on the way which makes sex painful!! knowing him he will try shoving it up my ass instead LOL

  8. Amanda says:

    My husband is sitting beside me debating why it is he didn’t think of the ‘Your Vagina Is Out-Of-Bounds For 8 Weeks, Ergo Anal Is Only Right’ logic before now.


  9. Jasmine says:

    Un-uh…no he did NOT…..that is so funny & I probably would’ve been one who just took it as the truth. Funny what we will say & think is absolutely hilarious when sleep-deprived. Delirium is my fave!

  10. facey says:

    im laughing like a school girl.

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